My husband suffers from antisocial personality disorder. He is very friendly with other women (like cashiers

I do not think he suffers from antisocial personality disorder, not even dissocial personality disorder.
He is probably suffering from lack of empathy, I do not know if there is a name for it. It is a symptom of most psychopathy disorders but it does not prove that he is suffering it. In most cases, violent behavior is a key component of the disorder.
People with lack of empathy or difficult to develop empathy do not socialize because of that. They can not get anything from socializing. But it makes it a lot easier for them to be charming or extremely nasty. Normal people do one or the other based on empathy. People with lack of empathy can do both & it does not affect them. But it is not compulsive. I am sure ur husband do it for a reason & it is totally under his control.
I am not an expert & it is hard to explain but I will try. Let is say that u get really angry with someone & yell at him, swear at him, the whole scene. It is going to have some impact on u too. Anxiety, discomfort, even fear. That is a consequence of ur empathy towards the other person, even if it is someone u do not know. Without empathy, u can do that & feel absolutely nothing. On the other extreme of the scale, if you're flirting with someone, ur charm will go up or down & be affected by the response of the other person. That is because of ur empathy towards him. Without empathy, u can take ur charm to any extent & the response of the other person does not matter.

But, between u & me, I think ur husband suffers from ''jerkiness'' disorder.

I was diagnosed with anti-social personality disorder and I simply prefer to merely associate with my wife and children. I could care less for friends, relatives, and in-laws. I keep to myself, I bother no one. When someone truly needs help I help them but I am not a sucker. I tell it like it is and being open-minded gets very few friends any way.

Persistent lying
Tendency to violate the rights & boundaries of others (property, physical, sexual, emotional, legal)
Aggressive, often violent behavior; prone to getting involved in fights
A persistent agitated or depressed feeling (dysphoria)
Inability to tolerate boredom
Disregard for the safety of self or others
Lack of remorse for hurting others
Superficial charm
Impulsiveness
A sense of extreme entitlement
Inability to make or keep friends
Lack of remorse
Recklessness, impulsivity

Above r some of the symptoms . due to his obvious lack of empathy ur summation sounds about right does not it? Good luck to both of you

you are wasting your time he will not change,dont make excuses for him, nothing is going to change.

I think he needs a woman like you to understand him..opening him up will be great for your relationship. find out more about his child hood..did he like his mom or hate his mom?

sounds like he is using women like a door mat..i would find out why he was not able to be in a relationship? maybe you bring out the best in him and he feels that you can understand him? not sure..

Yeah that is pretty much it the reason he has trouble being social is because one. he only sees women as sexual objects two he is scared their husbands are going to beat him up. and how do I know I have the same symptoms lol

I think it is called MAJOR selfishness. I do not think a therapist is needed for men like this. They are super selfish and do not care who they hurt.

You sure he is faithful to you now? Can a leopard change it is spots???

Usually people with Anitsocial personality disorder seem charming, and elegant. They seem almost perfect in a way. But that attention does not mean anything to them. They usually do not last long in relationships. IF they have them or they make them not work.

Sounds like he is a con artist.